How to end up sleeping safely with a man on a first date?
Last Update : 31 May 2018
The dating game has changed over the years. Nowadays, there is more equality between men, and women when it comes to follow the dating code of conduct.
However, many women still are concerned about their safety when they go out on a date, especially when they end up jumping into bed with a guy they know for just few hours.
If you want to get intimate with a man you have met on a dating site on a first date, make sure you consider the following safety tips in order to enhance your experience and make it one to never forget, in a positive way!
Do some research before meeting your casual date
New technologies are very useful for dating if you useful them in a correct way.
If you have met your date in an online community where people look for adult fun, you can have some tools at your disposal to know him better before meeting him in person.
Giving your full name on a casual dating site is not permitted. In fact, some platforms are so discreet that users are anonymous to the point where others do not even can put a face to a username. These are aimed to adventurous men/women in the search for cybersex.
In spite, you may not have much details about your date, you can always Google search the photos (in such cases where the user has uploaded pictures where his face is visible) and very often, you can have access to his profiles on several social networks like Facebook or Twitter.
If your search is not effective: you basically do not have any results, try to find out about him as much as you can. This also includes asking your (for now) online date about his sexual preferences, and fantasies.
It is the best way to know if you both are on the same boat, otherwise your experience when meeting in person, and getting ready to seal the deal can be very confusing, if not disappointing.
Staying in at his flat or yours?
One of the biggest questions is whether you should go to your date’s flat or your own, when things start to get hot between you two.
Having sex on the first date is great if you are looking for to enjoy the “here” and “now”. If you really do not want to miss the opportunity to experiment your sexuality with someone new, and without expecting a further commitment.
Nonetheless, there is a potential risk that for many daters goes unnoticed due to the heat of the moment. Getting laid on your first date means that you have not given yourself enough time to know who the other person really is and if he is trustable.
This is why it is crucial to think about what option is best. In a way, you are going to be in a position of vulnerability (him as well, even if he is very confident, and self-assured), so you would have to consider if you would prefer feeling comfortable and more secure at your own place, even if this means your date enters your own space or going to his place where you would even feel even more lost.
The ideal: meeting in middle ground. What about a hotel (or something similar) where you can give free rein to your erotic fantasies without worrying about where you are or how to leave if things do not go as planned?
Ensure your friends know relevant details about him
Whatever the option you choose, wherever the place you meet on your first hot encounter, make sure a friend of yours knows details about him (how he looks, his phone number…) and knows exactly where you go with him.
Trusting your gut is also a really good option. If you sense something is not right or if you feel uncomfortable because you expected your affair to be different, do not hesitate to politely call it a day (night) and leave with no remorse.
If he meets your erotic expectations and you have taken the previous steps into consideration, simply let yourself go and enjoy your night of passion. After all this is what casual dating was invented for!